dont know what to do
byGodschildon 30 Sep, 2014 08:56
I am in a state of confusion. Not knowing what to do, where to turn.My husband has left the house, because of all the fighting and arguing we have been doing. I can say that i am a good wife and he is a good husband, but likes to stay out late every weekend,which is making me believe he is cheating. He says no but i dont believe him. Im tired of it, im tired of his ways and even though i have no proof, im tired of thinking he is cheating and he doesnt make it better by staying gone. Is this a sign frim God saying to end the marriage, or is satan trying to destroy my marriage and family.
byjesus friendon 30 Sep, 2014 09:41
How about discussing about his goingg it, whenever a good opportunity arises. Ofcourse I can understand how you are feeling about it. May be Jesus expects you to be more patient and surrender him to Jesus.. My prayers for you.
byGodschildon 30 Sep, 2014 10:14
well we have talked about it numerous times but nothing changes. He is still behaving in ways that i dont aprrove of. And you are right maybe i should surrender gim to jesus, but how long di i deal with it? As i stated he has been gone for three days now, idk if he is coming back, i told him that i do not want to do it anymore, and i said some hurtful things because i feel like he is hurting me.he is ignoring my texts, so now i dont know if i should try to contact him again or just wait, but waiting is hard. Thank you for the response and prayers
byFebriani Rahayuon 30 Sep, 2014 20:53
Just wait sister, be patient, just doing ur activity daily, u cant do many things for now, be faith n keep pray, someday in the god's time ur family will recoverable, flow in His will as like we sink in river., maybe no way to out, everything like closed. But be still in our hope Once i had experience seem ur position. I know its so hard. sometimes need many time to wait, but in god our hope is never vainly. Dnt pray with cagde, god have gave us power and authority, Say everytime in faith, ur family will be fix, ur husband will home, n maybe u can tell ur husband for now up to u, but i say now to u god will make u comeback to me. God created the world and eden with His words n we created our world with speak it too, Sorry my english so bad, strength of god be with u sista
byGodschildon 06 Oct, 2014 11:42
Thank you so much @Frebriani for those words of encouragement i really needed it. I have been praying day and night.
byiwasbornon 07 Oct, 2014 12:05
You are not confuse. You just want your husband back, ,right? How to do that. ASK YOURSELF . . .why did he leave in the first place. You say " because of all the fighting and arguing we have been doing." Why all the fighting and arguing? Because you don't believe him, that he not cheating on you. Do you love your husband..You sound like you do you love him? What are you willing do get him back. Would you like for him to accuse of cheating on him, without any proof? Would you like for the police to trial you for murder only because they suspect that you did it? BIG FAT NO Will Proof; you say “ ...even though i have no proof” Would you say that you’re finding him guilty without proof. Is it jealous that making you think that he is cheating on you? God telling YOU . 1 Corinthians 13:4-8" Love is patient and kind. LOVE IS NOT JEALOUS. It does not brag, does not get puffed up, 5 does not behave indecently, does not look for its own interests, does not become provoked. It does not keep account of the injury. 6 It does not rejoice over unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. 7 It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.8 Love never fails............” Jealousy in the dictionary has this Definition “: an unhappy or angry feeling caused by the BELIEF that someone you love (such as your husband or wife) likes or is liked by someone else.” AS HUMANS WE DON’T LIKE FOR PEOPLE TO TELLS US WHAT DO, WE WANT TO MAKE OUR OWN DECISIONS. That include you and your husband, AND THAT IS OK BECAUSE WE WERE CREATED LIKE THAT. BUT WITH THAT COME THE RESPONSIBILITY FOR OUR CHOICES. We will suffer/ rejoice with our decisions.
So it’s up to you, not God, to do what you want. God give you and all us the ability to make choices in our lives. Remember Adam and Eve, they didn’t want to take responsibility for their actions. Eve blame the serpent, Adam blame God by saying“The woman whom you gave to be with me, she gave me fruit from the tree, so I ate.” Gen 3:12.
If your marriage fails, don’t blame God for it. Who choose him as husband you or God?
There are three questions that need to be answered by you: ASK YOURSELF . . . * What were my reasons for deciding to preserve my marriage despite his personal decisions?
* What positive qualities can I see in my mate right now?
* How did I show love in little ways when my mate and I were courting, and how can I do that again?
byMomicaon 08 Oct, 2014 02:10
Hi, my name is Monica. I would like to help you. Please reply so we can help each other. I see you haven't been here in awhile. I hope you get this message so I can pray and talk to you. My husband did exactly the same thing. Hoping to hear from you soon.