my wife of 20 years have commited adultry,i have forgiven her for what she's done.I want us to try and save our marriage but shes undecided if she wants to be with me or the other person.im praying to God to help us through this hard times.Its very hard for me to take her back into my life because of this but i also dont want to brake my vows that i will love and cherish her no matter what happend in our lives.what shiuld i do?please i need advice and prayer. thanks
byLydiaon 11 Jul, 2014 02:44
LISTEN TO THE INNERMAN U CANNOT SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE AS CHRISTIAN ONLY OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST CAN FOR NOW WHAT YOU CAN DO IS TO LET IT GO FOR THE CHEATING WIFE ONLY IF SHE FEELS LIKE GOING THE BIBLE SAYS IT FREE YOUR SPIRIT if Your heavenly father need you to have that relationship you will have it . So what you do now focus on prayer but Don be desperate to have her back. Let her comeback be of God because now she is in her setback. God bless you.
bychesteron 11 Jul, 2014 15:36
thanks Lydia for your advice,i really appreciate it .im letting my wife go as now she told me she wants to go. i can now feel my mind n heart free n not stress anymore.i should now focus on my children n pray to our Lord for help. have a bless day n God bless us all. regards,chester
byLydiaon 13 Jul, 2014 05:58
I am happy to hear that that you feel much better the Lord will heal your scars, I want you to focus on the Lord Jesus for at least treatment of 3 months starting from Monday you pray and read the word everyday make sure u choose the time that you not busy so that you not distracted and you record every dream you dream per those night and you share those dreams so that we can be able to differentiate spiritual dreams and just dreams. Your spiritual life is being tested you need to pass each test so that the Lord can promote you. Your prayer everyday should promote the kingdom of GOD, you give me the full name of your wife so that I pray for complete salvation for her. I will always at least twice a week check on you, and more if God has something for you. God bless.
bychesteron 01 Aug, 2014 04:08
im confused at the moment i thought i can handle my situation well but im not,i pray every night n morning to our Lord for help.my wife's been coming home sometimes to look after our 4 months baby n sometimes we made love even though shez still with someone else.I tried not to be desprate to have her back but i just cant as i still love her so much,her name is Litia Norah Bentley.am i commiting adultry when I have sex with her as she is still my wife?
byharmonyon 01 Aug, 2014 08:53
Hi Chester..I will be praying for you and for your wife to come back home...and I believe if you love her you should do whatever you can to have her back to the family you both built up. God wants us to be happy and if you feel you were happy with her fight for it. The bad angel doesn't want your marriage to survive but you will pray to god in the name of Jesus to help you save your marriage. Don't give up!! God bless you and give you strength. ..
byplumbercrackon 07 Aug, 2014 11:37
Brother I had a similar situation with my now ex-wife. According to the Bible you can divorce her as she cheated on you. What you have to ask yourself is what is best for your children. My ex was cheating and doing drugs and I felt it was in my daughter's best interest to divorce and obtain full custody. In hindsight that was the right choice. Keep in mind though your kids and will suffer more than you or your wife. They did not ask to be born, you both chose to have them. I wish we could go back to my parent's time when divorce was just not an option and couples worked through the problems. That may not agree with modern psyco-babble, but the world was a better place. Trust in the Lord and he will get you through this. Pray for your kids as they will need Him more through all this.
bychesteron 22 Aug, 2014 05:49
I would like to take this opportunity to thank each n everyone for their reply n posts.its helped me alot,now im facing another problem n more confused nw my ex wife is now 4 weeks pregnant with our baby n shez thinking of terminating her pregnancy.im not sure why God have bless us with another precious gift , if its a way of getting us back together or not as i have been prayig for us to get back together.the other person is pressuring her to have an abortion as he knows the babys not his and im very against it n im begging her to keep this gift as its the right thing to do even though she just given birth to our now 5 months son.shez thinking of termination becos she thinks her body is not ready to have another baby n she might not survive another childbirth as it was hard for her during our previous son's delivery.im trying very hard to convince her n tell her to think of God's blessing n im praying to our Lord to help us through diz situation.
byLydiaon 28 Aug, 2014 07:50
Hi Chester is Lydia again i told you to be still and know God is good in the mist of that problem God is there and watching you did not divorce your wife it is still your wife you have all the right to sleep with her even if she is involved in adultery. However i told you to listen to your inner man if she doesn't want to be with you you let it go, if she came to see children concentrate on that matter and enjoy the moment with faith. If she says she still want to be with you is still ok she is your wife the battle is not yours it is the spiritual battle you will come out . You need to pass a test in order to be granted certificate. You in long suffering like our Lord Jesus experienced. You will be rewarded soon. Take it as it flows and do not miss God s voice, listen carefully and attentively. Let me tell you a true story : I had my spiritual mother aging 5yrs old , her husband W's a born again christian before both of them and her husband ba k slide from the Lord. He had a girl friend and dishonored his marriage. Most of the time he was with his girlfriend more than her wife.This mour ing wife was always crying to the Lord with prayer and supplication . I also helped her in prayer of fasting. I was 28 yes old 5yrs in marriage by then 2001 only 1 year in Christianity, the Lord spoke to me to talk to her to relax and continue serving in faith. The husband decided to be with the girl friend full time , he stayed there and 3 children where born from the girl. After 1 5yrshe started to visiting his wife and ask for forgiveness not telling there is new families outside the marriage, as usual when you biblically grounded forgiveness is on your lips you do it instantly without questions with love and caring. Of course we couldn't wait for him to come back as the family where suffering he W's the bread winner for the family , my spiritual mother was a house wife who taught me how to look after a husband even now I am serving 22 years of marriage. I passed many test if I have to narrate you will as I am lying. After forgiveness he didn't stop seeing a girlfriend until he slept with her wife and the baby was born, after some time , he felt like he owning her wife she can do everything he feels, the wife felt for the love of her husband. However to forgive him it was not a mistake. The voice of God was missed. The husband became sick with hiv and aids while he was with his girlfriend and he couldn't comeback home as usual he will come and go still. He became severely sick and died within that month. The wife only new when they needed her to release money from the insurances and at work. The girlfriend was there demanding . She only new that the husband divorced and she is the wife . It wasn't so. Ok now the wife also got sick after a 3yrs she died eventually. I am now looking after her children first born is 35 the least is 10 yes. What I am trying to stress here out of thi abstract is sometimes the Lord can break the relationship if that relationship is not healthy for you. But trying to fight the battle we might find ourself in a situation where by we shortening our life's for not listening to the voice of God. Don't try to put together the puzzle if God did not tell you to do . If is your wife she will comeback don't tell her to comeback keep quite until the right time. Our heavenly father is Faithfull and just to mend our wounds. May the Lord bless you don't hesitate to talk to me this is the department I am assigned by God.