Im in an abusive relationship. Im divorcing my husband. He is being extremely mean & nasty because he isn't getting his way. He doesn't care about me, his wife at all. I know God doesn't like divorce but i don't believe He wishes us to remain in an abusive relationship either. I know the bible says to respect & obey your husband's but this is husband's that are doing God's Word. Am i wrong for divorcing him? He's proved over & over that he only cares for himself & not me.
bydavidbenjon 11 Jun, 2015 17:09
is he hurting you?i think you have to talk to your partner,and ask him if he really loves you.
byproverbs31womanon 12 Jun, 2015 08:36
Abuse of any kind is never acceptable. Sometimes seperation can allow the christian spouse time to pray and fast for the marriage and to seek God guidance in decision making. Bible said the marriage he puts together let it not be put asunder. But question is was it lust or any thing but God that brought a marriage together...
byOlibrice.Mariaon 13 Jun, 2015 22:44
It's a delicate subject. How long have you been married and what have you tried as solutions? Your reactions to your husband's abusive action and his post reactions may help me advise you better, if you don't mind.
byMulungion 14 Jun, 2015 02:58
Pliz don't allow him to disrespect u ..thats not good at all as for you ..you treat him well so he has to do that to you too..or else walk out from him God will get you a better one...
bypetemanon 14 Jun, 2015 17:37
Be careful of the advice that people give you, some of it may seem but if it's not biblical it's not the right decision. Make sure that advice you get comes strictly from God's word. If you need advice I'm always on here my name is Pastor Keith.
byhandmadeofgodon 16 Jun, 2015 03:39
Hi Katie.. Sorry to hear your stories, but you know sometimes distance can help both parties how much love they have for each other.. Try to give yourself and your partner some space, time to think things over & talk to God for his provisions.. U can also ask guidance from your pastor or matured Christians in your church..
bypapaaris6on 16 Jun, 2015 08:11
Hello, I sympathesize you very much and pray that your husband gets some help from the Lord. My wife has been abusive to me and I have been the same way towards her. I got terminated from my job, and when I came home to tell her she flipped her mind. She was so mad that she practically threw me out of the house that night. I had to leave the house. That's how bad it was. I was totally shocked that she did not support me or back me up or say that things are going to be all right. None of those supporting things did my wife say to her husband. Almost 3 months later she still feels the same and I feel as though she has abandoned me and my mind frame is bad right now. I am still not working and a lot has to do wirh her not being supportive. K need to feel loved, not abused. I thought about divorce seriously. I dont have the courage I guess or I am stupid. She still doesnt think she did anything wrong. She said I was wrong and ruined the family. I said this is life, and she needs to support me. But she wont hear it. Why wont she hear it? Because we have nothing now? I am sorry Kate for your situation but I think enough is enough and you have the courage to move on. I don't. I will feel like I will have abandoned if I left. But how much more can I take? Someone please help me. I am needing the the mind of Christ. I need a job because I am truly at the bottom. I just signed up in here too so I believe the Lord has sent me here.
bymakafuion 12 Jul, 2015 17:42
People say these words on the wedding day forgetting its not just words but living the words from that day forth. FOR BETER FOR WORSE TILL DEATH SEPARATES US .you enjoyed the sweet moments when all was rosy thinking its going to be same forever .well the devil hates to us happily married so would throw a few boms at your relationship to break it up or make it unbearable for both couples. So pray and fight back.dont pray once pray always as long as you love to win the love you once enjoyed. Love does not give up.when he is down don't leave him to rise alone .help him rise.dont give the devil the pleasure of divorcing your husband or wife
byGillianon 16 Jul, 2015 07:04
I have been in almost similar situation, worse part of it is that mine was a Pastor. Cheated countless times, impregnated a lady and after 7 years of marriage he decided to divorce me. I was praying for us to get breakthrough, 3 months after he got promoted he left me. Our daughter was 2 and half years by then. I love God and believe in him...
I'm a victim of Christian marriage, God Didn't create marriage for us to be abused, instead he said "men love your wives as Christ loves the church" by so loving us, that will definitely lead us to be obedient.
If he is cheating get out before its too late. HIV and AIDS exist.