I dont want a divorce but it seems inevitable.
byKyboyon 15 May, 2015 09:24
My wife and I have been together 5 years, married 3. We have 4 children. 1 each from a prior marriage and 2 together. We have had nothing but life changing events happen over and over throughout our relationship. We have both handled each other incorrectly more often than not. I have given up the fight more than a few times. This isn't because I don't care it is just easier for me to just stop fighting for our relationship because I am never heard. In her eyes I am always the bad guy and my needs, thoughts, and feelings about things are made up just to weasel my way out of what " I did to her." No amount of pleading can convince her other wise. There are a laundry list of factors that go into this whole scenario. It also doesnt help that we have no friends or family so we never get a break from the kids or each other. I don't even know where to start or what to say about it. I don't know. I do know I'm depressed and because of our problems I'm beginning to get the grass is greener on the other side type thoughts.
byrev.tim7on 15 May, 2015 22:19
Counseling sessions after sessions, i have heard similar stories to this. I am sorry for the pain your going through. The only way i can encourage you is this : God had commanded you too love your wife the way Christ love the church. He served the church, taught the church, and then sacrificed for the church. He did this whale the church was disobedient, selfishness, complaining, behaving badly, etc.....when you said 'I Do ', you were saying i do in taking care of her and her children; i do in serving, teaching and sacrificing; you were saying i do in presenting her back to God in the kingdom, you were saying i do in fighting for the spiritual souls of your family. It's a battle, but it is a battle you can win. May God bless and keep you.
byPumlani 777on 19 May, 2015 12:21
My brother, I have just saw your post and has just reminded of my situation too,I am a married man for 8 years and have 4 kids,the 2 are not out of the marriage as we got married having children before we knew each other..therefore that makes us to have 2 girls from our marriage by the way the other 2 children are boys ages 12&13..My friend GOD has done you a favor with that woman as it is said in the book of Proverbs 18v22 that"He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord"...what I can advise you is that ask GOD to help you take care of your favor..remember this,Adam had no challenges before Eve was taken out of Him,the Devil is jealousy of what is perfected by GOD ALMIGHTY which is the marriage..marriage is sacred and is a secrete that most people choose to dodge and prefer to move in together and continue to worship GOD with guilty hearts.. my brother love your wife and be patient with her..do not divorce her for GOD hates divorce,please read Malachi 2v10-16 and continue to pray for the situation and GOD willing I will be with you in prayers...GOD is with you...ask her if she really loves GOD and if she says yes then ask her how does she think GOD,CHRIST JESUS and HOLY SPIRIT feel about the way you treat each other?..I Love both of you together with your kids..Psalm 37v8.."Refraine from anger,and turn from wrath;do not fret-it leads only to evil"....Matthew 5v31-32..